A New Heart, a Beer Can and a Broken Flip-Flop
There is an
amazing story I heard on the radio about a cardiologist who allowed a pastor to
observe a surgery he was doing on a patient.
After the doctor had done all of the technical/surgical things he had been
able to do, he leaned over to the patient, a woman, and whispered to her,
“Okay, I’ve done all I can do – now you have to take over, tell your heart to
beat again…” And Christian songwriter
Danny Gokey took that inspiring vignette and penned these lyrics:
Tell your
heart to beat again
Close your eyes and breathe it in
Let the shadows fall away
Step into the light of Grace
Yesterday's a closing door
You don't live there anymore
Say goodbye to where you've been
And tell your heart to beat again
Close your eyes and breathe it in
Let the shadows fall away
Step into the light of Grace
Yesterday's a closing door
You don't live there anymore
Say goodbye to where you've been
And tell your heart to beat again
I cannot begin to tell you what these lyrics have meant to me
in the last eight months. As some of you
may know, I was the victim of a group lynching at the place where I should have
been the most emotionally safe: the
church where I did part-time ministry. I
was misconstrued by one group of people, who ran to the power brokers and
complained, who in turn went to the pastor, who called me into a private
meeting that was not in fact private. It
was five people – two of them very angry, having already jumped to conclusions
that I was a bigot. They did not use the
word, they painted the picture – and it was skewed by second and third-hand
interpretations. They did not respect me
as a professional educator and minister and try to understand what I was saying
to them. They just shouted at me while
the pastor sat there and let them do the dirty work.
As my brain and emotions reeled from the treatment I was
getting, I tried to re-group and figure a way that I could continue doing the
job I loved under the eye of people who had stopped loving me a long time ago….
The same people who stand there week after week and sing a song that has the
lyrics “all are welcome in this place.”
The hypocrisy was painful. I had presented over the past seven and a
half years what I know to be the philosophy and teachings of Christ, and
subsequently the interpretation of that by the Roman Catholic Church. They on the other hand refused to listen to
what our party line is, thinking somehow they can endorse something else. Well, you can’t say you are this, and in
actuality be that.
As I left that room, I could feel my heart being rent in two
inside me. It was scary and horrible at
the same time. Some dear friends
supported me, and one of them went in to the room to give them a clearer picture
of what they were doing to me…. in a
pretty direct and loud fashion. And she
was met with, “that wasn’t what we intended.”
As anyone who has been through this sort of experience will tell you,
you cannot cross back over a bridge that has been blown up. So I resigned. And thereupon became, in a particular sense,
“churchless.” I still believe what I
believe. I still am who I am. I still value what I value. And I could not do that with that group of
people watching for me to cross their own lines…. So I have been a nomad on
Sunday mornings looking for a church to worship in, while at the same time, not
looking to put down roots or trust too quickly that I have found my spiritual
home. My spiritual home, in fact, I
carry within me. It cannot be a building or a particular group of people
because I have learned that this will, in the end, fail you. As my great grandmother once said in her
broken Polish accent, “peoples is peoples.”
As I travel on Sunday mornings to find the faces of faith in
a variety of different congregations, I am feeling a little better. At times I have even been entertained or
inspired by some pretty good homilies.
And other times, not so much. I
have been to multi-million dollar churches with a congregation so large they have
to have four Masses to accommodate their people – and each with a different
style or flavor to it. You know, the
9:00 am has the guitar music; while the 11:00 am has the organ, etc.; the
pastor and associate banter back and forth creating a friendly vibe – they keep
it light. I found a sweet little back
country church where the priest actually faces the East (symbolic of waiting
for Christ’s return) and consequently with his back to the congregation as he
does the Eucharistic prayers. It was
like attending the Old Latin Mass, only in English, well mostly.
I attended an evangelical Protestant church
mid-winter that had a congregation of 25.
Twenty-five, period, end of sentence.
And half of them walked in 20 minutes late. I found that kind of entertaining. All these years I beat myself up for showing
up five minutes late, like somebody cared, and half their church is
late! I liked the music; I liked the
sermon, but then the next three weeks were going to be about marriage and that
is kind of not on my grid right now so I continued my sojourn.
Last week I went to a far-flung place with a big, traditional
physique as far as the building goes.
The deacon gave the homily. I
just remember that he started out by saying how long some material things last,
and that eventually everything gives way to time and the elements…. including
us. And he launched into making a point
about us preparing for the moment of our death, when we meet our Maker. Except he gave no practical tips, like say,
pray the rosary every day or read ten minutes of the Bible every morning. So, I just stopped listening. This is a privilege I am allowing myself in
my middle years: if you stop being
interesting or don’t get relevant within the first eight minutes, I am no
longer interested. It’s just the brain
screening out the extraneous in order to last longer itself.
At the end of the Mass, the pastor got up and said something
kind about the homily the deacon gave. He
then remarked that, as the congregation was aware, he himself is a
card-carrying, lifetime member of alcoholics anonymous. (I love him for his authenticity.) He said:
Deacon told us that a beer can left in the woods lasts about 80 years
and I am pleased to report that I have just turned 81! In other words, he outlived the beer
can. The entire congregation chuckled at
that – it was great. And I love it when
a group has a sense of humor and doesn’t let their “church-iness” put a veneer
on their sense of humor. Nonetheless, I
was and still am not ready to meet and greet new people.
I tried to slip out the side door where he was saying good
morning to people. I tried very hard to
be invisible. I don’t even know by what
childish magic my brain thinks that someone in an adult body like mine can
become invisible by just moving quietly around a group of people. Well, the next thing that happened was my
pretty black flip-flop with the fake diamonds on its strap just BROKE. I could not manage to get a flat foot on the
ground and did a series of awkward, Big Bird-like movements to maintain my
balance and grab the flip flop without falling over on the sidewalk. I walked back to my vehicle with the flip
flop in one hand and a barefoot on the ground as well.
It is likely that my predicament was not un-noticed by the
very people I was trying to skirt.
However, it is for sure and for certain that Someone Else has not left
any of my predicaments and awkward scenarios unseen. He is watching (and probably was laughing
divinely) and I feel loved by Him.
That’s all that matters now.
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